Let Tarot Help You Move On When You Need To

Romance In My Youth

When I was much younger and single, my world revolved around exciting dates, flowers and chocolates-filled romance, moon-lit walks and candle-lit dinners with my boyfriends.  Sigh.  Youth.  Those heady days came with plenty of heartbreak, disappointment and mismatched expectations that accompanied these relationships.  Thankfully, with time, experience and <er-hemm>, maturity, putting some of these relationships behind me became increasingly easier.  I knew over the years that somehow, the Universe will hold my hand through these relationships and present the right romantic opportunity to me in its own time and pace.  And it did.

Difficult To Let Go

As a Tarot reader, there’s never a day that would pass by without at least one question from a client with regard to romance and relationships.  I often joke to my friends that I am starting to feel like the “Doctor of Love”.  Even when I was doing Tarot readings at a public event geared towards school-leavers and mid-career job-switchers, 90% of the questions asked were about relationship!  

I do welcome them because truly,  I know from experience how difficult it is to maneuver the complicated dynamics of 2 different people with different aspirations attempting to find a middle ground within which they both can thrive and grow as a couple.   It is hard work.  If you are blessed to have found the right person, you’d definitely know it without doubt.   However, amongst those who haven’t found the right partner and had to manage the disappointments and emotional pain that followed, there were some clients who have clung to that heartbreak for a very long time.

The following are a few key Tarot cards that reflect the emotional state of these clients who are still clinging on to the past and encourage them to make a commitment to heal from their wounds, put the past behind them and start on a clean slate so that they can readily embrace a new relationship when the Universe presents that opportunity to them. 

The Tower Reversed
The Tower in the upright position is a reflection of sudden and unexpected changes, turmoil and adversity that is necessary to rock one’s comfort zone enough to allow for opportunities of growth and regeneration. In the reversed, the Tower signifies one’s unwillingness to accept these changes and painfully delaying the process of change. 

 Death Reversed
Death in the upright position is a reflection of transformation from a major phase of one’s life.  In the reversed, Death signifies the reluctance to let go of the past and a refusal to acknowledge that the transformation is needed to bring about a new and brighter future.

6 Of Swords Reversed
6 of Swords in the upright position signifies an important period of transition that one has to make which requires him or her to leave the past completely behind.  In the reversed position, it is a reflection of one experiencing the challenge of not being able to move on from the past, and allowing the past to catch up with him or her due to unresolved issues.

3 of Swords Reversed
3 of Swords in the upright position indicate that one is going through emotional hurt and disappointment.  In the reversed, it indicates that one is still suffering from the pain of that loss and heartbreak and is unable to move on. The heart is always the hardest thing to heal isn’t it?

The Devil
Tired of the reversed cards yet?  Then, there’s the Devil. The Devil represents one’s fears as well as feelings of negativity and entrapment.  In a relationship reading, one could be stuck in an unhealthy relationship yet may be unable to move on from it because of the perception that he or she can continue to wait out the pain whilst attempting to resolve the conflicts and tension.  Perhaps one also has fears that when he or she moves on from that unhealthy relationship, there will not be that perfect relationship waiting for him or her out there.  I remembered reading for a client who was in an abusive relationship.  She was of the opinion that she “deserved” her partner’s verbal and physical abuse because she thought that defined true love.  The Devil card was in her Tarot spread.  Needless to say, the advice that the card wanted to give her then was to start re-evaluating her relationship goals.

Strength And Commitment To Move On

I have a strong belief that the Universe allows such relationship challenges to happen along the way on our journey to find the right partner, so that we can hone our communication skills, honesty, openness, and the determination to make the right relationships work in the long term with the right partner.   

Before one can commit to the right partner in the long term, one has to commit to heal completely from past relationship wounds, hurts and disappointments.  When one door closes, always know that there will be another one that will open, and that door that opens may be the right one.   How can one give the right partner a chance, and embrace the opportunity of a better and more meaningful relationship when one still clings on to the residual negativity of the past?

So which Tarot card have you come across in your readings, either as a client or a Tarot reader yourself, that's not within this list, which had presented a clear message to you, to move on ?

About The Writer:
The writer of this blog post is a marketeer by trade, and a tarot card reader by accident. She was awarded a Certified Professional Tarot Reader qualification from the Tarot Certification Board of America (TCBA) and is also a  certified numerologist.  She runs a consultancy in Singapore called Sun Goddess Tarot which offers intuitive readings welding the metaphysical disciplines of Tarot, Numerology and Astrology. A member of the American Tarot Association (ATA) and the Tarot Association of the British Isles (TABI), she is also a reader for the Free Tarot Network and is a mentor for the ATA.   She can be contacted at joanna@sungoddesstarot.com,  www.facebook.com/SunGoddessTarot or www.sungoddesstarot.com

Musings On The Death Card In Tarot

A Repulsive Topic

Death – a frightening notion. It’s a morbid topic that is not particularly pleasant for most.  It’s repulsive even for some superstitious people who would wave away the word in disgust when uttered in an irreverent manner.  I know the older folks of my Chinese family would be doing just that if I had shown them the Hello Kitty Tarot card for Death.

Fear

A couple of months ago, the mother of a childhood friend discovered that I was a professional tarot reader and had bugged my friend to accompany her to my home for a Tarot reading.  The minute she stepped through my front door, I knew the topic of discussion that evening was going to be about Death.

The 70-odd year old lady was spunky and sprightly in her gait, fiery in her conversations and full of enthusiasm for life.  She clearly was not afraid of death.  She was ready for it as she had lived a full and happy life with her family. 

However, as much as I thought she was going to pick the death card at some point, it didn’t show up.  Each of the cards she picked that evening was indicative of her fear of the process just before her impending death.  She feared being ill, bed-ridden and  being a burden to the family she loved.  She was afraid of the pain she may suffer in the course of death, and she was even more afraid of the pain her family will suffer, seeing her in that state.  If death was to come to her, she wanted it swift and painless.  If only the universe worked like what they did in Star Trek, beaming people up to the heavens at the right time.

However, the cards advised her to not be afraid.  It’s a general progression within the cycle of life.  She has led a life of abundance, full of love from the family, complete with a fulfilling career as a teacher which gave her the opportunity to teach her students about life.  She has nothing to be afraid of, because the universe will hold her hands to walk that journey when the time comes.  She will never be alone.

 The Death Card

The Death card is possibly the most misunderstood card in a Tarot deck.  However, it’s one of my favorite and most meaningful cards because it symbolizes the necessity to let go of the past, and to leave that major phase of your life behind as you move on to embrace a new beginning full of opportunities and potential to lift you to greater heights. I have decided to attach the Death card images from 2 Tarot decks, the Hello Kitty Tarot deck and the Morgan Greer Tarot deck which looked less frightening and more colorful than usual.

Often, this card is picked when my querant has undergone major changes like a divorce, a job change, bereavement, or a break-up in his or her relationship.  They often come to see me in a state of confusion, depression and anxiety.  However, when I see this card, I would hold their hand as I tell them that the universe has just opened a new door for them, if only they would pick up the courage to let it go and walk through that door.

I picked the card for myself when I was undergoing a lot of changes within my work environment earlier in the year. Sure, I was gripped with fear and anxiety, and I wasn’t sure what to make of the changes and their impact to my role.  However, I had decided to work with the changes, adapt to them and instead of attempting to “change the changes”, I had decided to change the way I thought about the changes, and embraced them as another learning curve.

The Death Card Reminds Me Of Autumn

Yes, indeed the Death card does remind me of the season of Autumn.  We don't experience Autumn in Singapore.  However,  in other parts of the world, my friends are about to celebrate the start of Autumn.   It’s a time of changes, when the colors of the leaves turn from lush green to rust gold and red. It’s a time when the balmy heat of summer gives way to a slight chill in the air.  It’s a time when one commemorates life when the vegetables and fruits from their gardens are harvested and put on the dinner tables for their families. It’s also a time one commemorates death as the crops die in the fields to generate new ones.

So it is very apt that the topic for the upcoming Tarot Blog Hop, which I will be participating in, is about the pagan festival of Mabon.  Mabon is a festival commemorating change and transformation, life and death.  Do watch out for my next blog post about it on 22nd Septmebr, at http://sungoddesstarot.blogspot.com/2012/09/mabon.html

About the writer:

The writer of this blog post is a marketeer by trade, and a tarot card reader by accident. She was awarded a Certified Professional Tarot Reader qualification from the Tarot Certification Board of America (TCBA) and was recently certified as a numerologist in Singapore. A member of the American Tarot Association (ATA) and the Tarot Association of the British Isles (TABI), she is also a reader for the Free Tarot Network and is a mentor for the ATA.

She can be contacted at www.facebook.com/SunGoddessTarot or www.sungoddesstarot.com